My family and I moved to Texas six years ago. I had always worked up until then, but we had made a decision as a family that I would become a stay at home mom. Yay, right? Well, yes and no.
When you move to a new city and it is just you, your husband and two sons, a woman gets lonely for other females to talk with, chit-chat, and gab. It is really hard to make friends, especially when you are slightly shy, when you first meet people, and feel really intimidated. There are a lot of great places to meet people, work being obvious and where I usually met and had most of my friends. Since I wasn’t working, that wasn’t an option. Church, well there, I was way too shy to go up to anyone in large group settings and talk.
So, I turned to my love of books! I’ve loved to read since my early teens, it was an escape from reality back then and it was now. I had made a few friends that met to play cards once a week, and one of those ladies started a book club. I was jumping for joy! This was going to be a small group of people, so I just might feel comfortable. At first, I wasn’t comfortable, the friend who started the book club ended up quitting the club. There I was again, without my safety blanket. I felt out of pocket, intimidated and all of these ladies seem to know each other well.
I went to the meetings, read the books and I tried really hard, to participate in the meetings. I really enjoyed talking about the books and I read a lot of books that were out of my normal genre. Then a tragedy happen to the husband of one of the other members. We all rallied together and made meals that could be frozen, so she wouldn’t have to cook, in this time of need.
Mel, that is her name, she has three kids and it was her husband that had an accident. She had always treated me with kindness, so I wanted to help her out. I knew she would have her hands full, just taking care of her husband. I asked if I could help out with her kids. One at a time, I took them and tried to do something with them and make them feel special. This is what I would have wanted if I were in her shoes. Over this time, Mel and I were becoming close. We already knew we enjoyed the same genre of books due to conversations during the book club meetings. Somehow, that book club ended not too long after this but Mel and I remained good friends. Now today, we are best friends and you almost don’t ever see one of us without seeing the other.
I’ve meet so many other people like this too, Mel introduced me to the world of book signings! She had just got a job as a PA (personal assistant) for an author. Believe it or not, it was for an author of a book that we kind of bonded over earlier. She had also started a fan page for the author, Crownover’s Crowd. I joined her crusade, to help find people, who loved Jay Crownover, as much as we did! In this group, I have met some of the best people, and that isn’t just on line. When we go to signings, we all meet up! This group of people has kind of brought me out of my shy shell a little bit. Trust me, this group of people, we are like one big happy family. I’ve never seen a better group in my life. If someone in this group is down or needs encouragement (which isn’t what this group is meant for) there is close to 3,000 people, in there to offer kind words! Then you have Jay Crownover, she treats everyone she meets, like a friend. I have met a lot of authors, I haven’t met any that is more generous and truly grateful to their fans. Jay Crownover rocks, just sayin’.
I find it amazing that a hobby, you do all by yourself typically, can be the source of so many friends. Really good friends! I wouldn’t be reviewing books and I wouldn’t be a blogger without Mel. I’m so lucky to call her my best friend, really now we consider each other family. So, pick up a book, it might not only help you escape reality but it might help you make a best friend. Love you Mel.